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Engagement



Jewish Engagement


Jewish EngagementTo have a marriage arranged is called betrothal, Engagement or in Hebrew Erusin. In former generations the parents decided about who will marry who and what each of them will bring into the marriage and engagements for marriage were generally brought about by a third person, often a professional match-maker who knew people and traveled. Today with much more information and freedom the couple usually finds each other on their daily life. The Betrothal, or engagement, is defined as the mutual promise between a man and a woman to contract a marriage at some future time. Engagement in Jewish law is not just announcing an upcoming marriage but includes the formulation of the terms on which this happy event will come into life. The tna'im, Hebrew for conditions are written up in a contract. The document used is a standard printed form with blank spaces for the names of the bride, groom, guarantors and witnesses who will sign this document. The engagement ceremony takes place in the bride to be home on Motzei Shabbat. The ceremony will begin with Havdalah. At the Engagement ceremony the Tenaim document is read out loud by the bride and groom and two Jewish witnesses and a piece of crockery is smashed by both mothers to seal the deal and to symbolize that the childhood home as it once was no longer exists. Mazal-Tov! It is customary that once the Te'naim has been signed the bride and groom meet with a Rabbi to set a specific time and date for the wedding. Tradition requires that the wedding will take place within one year of the engagement. FIND AN EXAMPLE OF ENGAGEMENT GIFTS BY CLICKING THE LINK.

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Engagement traditions


Engagement traditionsUsually signing the Tnaim takes place on Saturday Night after Havdalah ceremony, the ritual that separates the Sabbath from the rest of the week. It is tradition to let two guests read the Tnaim document out loud for all to hear. The document will then be signed by the bride and groom and two Jewish witnesses. A traditional Tnaim ceremony includes the smashing of a piece of crockery. Both mothers in law to be will each have a hammer in hand and together, they will smash a plate to show that the couple is leaving the household. Smashing the plate also symbolizes the seriousness of the engagement commitment of the couple to each other. It means that just as breaking the plate is final the engagement too is a final act and not easily terminated. Mazel Tov! It is not uncommon to find the custom of making a necklace for the bride from the broken pieces. In other places the broken pieces are given to eligible singles in order to demonstrate the wish that a plate will be soon broken for them too. Giving or exchanging rings at the engagement is not necessary yet is a nice token of love and have been popular throughout history. Often the engagement ring is designed in a way that it will fit and integrate into the wedding ring. Sometimes the design allows later addition of stones at later events like the birth of a new baby or an anniversary. After signing the Tnaim an engagement party is a great way to bring family and friends of the bride and groom to be together and celebrate the upcoming union, thus making them part of the joy of the wedding planning. This of course is also a great opportunity to discuss wedding plans and for both families to socialize.


Engagement gifts ideas


Getting engaged is a significant and happy event. Many family members and close friends will use this event to express their happiness and show their excitement by giving the engaged couple a gift. Giving items that will be used by the couple in their later wedded life is a great idea. Of course it is important to pick something that will be appropriate to you and the couple to be. Remember, it is important to give the engagement gift any time after the couple has officially announced their engagement, and before any bridal or wedding showers. Depending on how long the engagement phase is going to be gifts do vary. If the engagement is celebrated a long time before the wedding, consider giving the couple a gift they can enjoy now. However when the engagement takes place short time before the wedding, it would be nice to give the couple, or each of them separately, a gift they can enjoy now. Our experts at Gans will assist you in finding just the right gift for the next Jewish engagement you are going to attend taking special care to consider the couple and your budget while adding a note to express your congratulations . Please do not hesitate to contact us when you need engagement gift ideas.

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