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We are required to be always reminded of the destruction of the Holy Temple especially so when a person has the good fortune of arriving at some occasion that gives him a sense of gratification. In this ordinance, the sages teach us that so long as the Holy Temple is not built, the private home of an individual also cannot be complete. Therefore it was instituted that when a person builds a house for himself and arrives at its final stage, the whitewashing of the walls, he or she must remember that the house of the nation, the Holy Temple, still lies in ruins. And in remembrance of the destruction of the Holy Temple he must leave a square cubit of wall not white washed. The bare square cubit must be in a place that catches the eye. In one of the happiest moments in our life cycle, the wedding, we are again called to give thought to the awful event of the destruction of the Holy Temple. We say: Naaleh et Yerushalaim al Rosh Simchateinu means: Let us place Jerusalem at the forefront of all our joy. This verse said on weddings is a reminder to always keep close to our hearts Jerusalem and our yearning for the days of redemption. There is another verse that reminds us of this duty. The verse from Psalms 137 is recited by the groom at the wedding ceremony: Im eshkachech Yerushalaim tishkach yemini If I forget thee, O Jerusalem, let my right hand wither. In the Talmud: Taanit 30b we learn that; Whoever mourns for Jerusalem will be meritorious and will see its rejoicing and all who do not mourn for Jerusalem will not see it's rejoicing –Kol Hamitabel al Yerushalyim Zoche veRoeah Besimchata. So, like we say every year when the Seder ceremony comes to its end, let say; Le-shanah ha-ba-a b'Yerushalayim, Next year in Jerusalem.